understanding.

Hey friend, 

Life is all about relationships. 

Relationship to ourself, to external things, to creation, to life itself. 

You could define relationship as : a collection of habits, stories, beliefs, ideas and definitions that we hold in reference to a particular thing, person, etc.

And for many of us, me at least- a big part of my relationship to myself has been a habit of trying to be understood by others. To do things, create things, in such a way that the audience could understand me, at least a little. 

A question that I have been asking myself recently is… “What would it be like to let go of the need to be understood.“

The need for others to see me. 

The need to be able to justify to others how I live, how I spend your time. 

To let go of living in a way that I can neatly package in conversation and present it to who ever I meet.

How much of our lives are run by the need to be understood, acknowledged, accepted, celebrated by others?

How much does it limit how we live?

To me, it seems theres a song in me, that only I can sing

A chord, that only I can hear. 

It would be a shame not to play it, because no one else would hear it. 

See friend, the highest expression of what you are, will probably not be able to be received by most. 

Perhaps no one, but you. 

What would you create if you were invisible?

What would you create if you were the only one to ever see it?

If the audience of your life disappeared forever.

How would you live your life, if you could never explain it to others. 

Life is a single player game. We are born alone and we die all alone. 

In the meantime, you are here to create something great. 

But we live so much of our lives in the service of making it all make sense to others. 

What would I be like to live free of that?

-Jay

Jay Topp is a 24 year old writer, marketer, film maker & self-led educator originally from Australia, now based between Latin America & Europe. You can see his films here. Instagram here. And his business website here.

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