healing is the disease

Hey friend, 

I shared a quote on instagram yesterday than received a wide range of reactions and comments…

It was this…

“This is your annual reminder that you don't need to resolve your issues, you don't need to deal with your emotional baggage, you don't need to process your trauma, you don't need to confront your past, you don't need to figure yourself out, you can just go ahead and do the thing." - @ESYudkowsky

See, its been said that healing is the biggest disease of all.

Which may seem like a controversial thing to say. But let me explain a little…

The problem with most healing, is that it is not really about real change or transformation. 

In most healing, its mostly about a habit of stimulation. 

See most people, don’t know how to give themselves love (love= attention with out reason)

The only way their know how to give themselves attention is through pain.

And so “healing journeys“ whether through psychedelics, embodiment circles, breath work, therapy, whatever … are dangerous

Because it because this familiar cycle of stimulation that appears to be growth and “healing“ but its ultimately a running around in circles. 

This habit of unpacking and retelling the same stories is very comfortable, not because its pleasant or easy, but because its familiar and the only way most know how to give themselves their undivided attention. 

A constant raising of the dead. Stories of the past. Blame, victimhood. 

People needing some tragic story in order to give their journey significance. 

People needing pain or challenges, to give themselves love and attention. 

And instead of ascending & elevating themselves and actual growth… they create this cycle of digging a hole in their life, to serve their habit of pulling themselves out of that hole. 

This habit of manufacturing problems, to serve their habit of fixing problems.

This feels like growth, but they never actually get anywhere but the place that they started. They become addicted to this stimulation. 

If problems, pain, tragedy are the only way that you get your own love and attention, you will constantly create these things in your life. Because their is nothing we crave more than our own love and attention.

Most people hold onto their trauma like a badge of honour, or something to put their hat on.

Most people run the same story their whole life, to feel significant. 

And most people are obsessed with healing, have no idea how to actually move forward.

You don’t need to reconcile the past into some coherent narrative that you can explain to others and feel good about, you don’t need to create some story about your trauma, you don’t need to unpack & rerun all this old shit. 

You can just choose to release it, and move forward. 

Healing is the biggest disease. 

- Jay 

Jay Topp is a 24 year old writer, marketer, film maker & self-led educator originally from Australia, now based in Buenos Aires, Argentina. You can see his films here. Instagram here. And his business website here.

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